Sunday, May 23, 2010
Yeah, embryo adoption.
When I first heard about her from K (Patiently Waiting also has an adoption group) I thought wow, that's so cool. Then when I met her on Tuesday, my heart jumped a little.
I'm not sure what this means yet, but the thought of embryo adoption is exciting. If IVF does not work for us, and if we decided to pursue adoption, this is an option. I heard about embryo adoption on Focus on the Family a few years ago. At that time, we were just starting our fertility treatments, and it never even occurred to me that we would have considered IVF. So I didn't even consider it. But now, embryo adoption seems like a possible option. Though Babe and I have not talked about this, I did "casually" mention Katie to him. Couldn't really tell how he felt about it though.
With embryo adoption, we would have to go through the regular adoption process. Unlike regular adoption, I would actually be able experience pregnancy and childbirth, which would be a big plus! There is also no risk of a failed adoption where a birthparent decides to parent or reclaim a child. Plus, since we have gone through IVF, we can relate to the pain and heartache of infertility, and we know how much the biological parents wanted and desired to have children.
It is estimated that there are around 500,000 human embryos in cryopreservation in the US. Because some parents that have gone through IVF have extra embryos, but have decided that their families are complete, they are faced with a dilemma: donate the embryos to research, thaw them and let them die, or donate them to couples that cannot conceive. With embryo adoption, we would be adopting these donated embryos, a decision that is life honoring for both the biological parents and the adoptive parents.
Like I said earlier, I don't really know what this all means for us yet as we are planning on another round of IVF. I haven't taken time to research any of this but I'll probably meet up with Katie sometime in the future just to chat. Still, it's exciting just to think about it.
Have adopted an embryo? Have/Would you ever considered it?