Monday, July 1, 2013

A Confession

Can you believe it's July 1st already?  Where did half the year go?  And yet it seems like September is so far away!

OK, I have a confession to make.

This weekend, I decided to do some stalking!  I'm not proud of it, but I did it anyways.

The mom of Family B has a fairly unique first name.  I know what state Family B lives in.  So I did a quick search on FB by her first name and state, and right away, a profile with the donor mom popped up.  It was the correct first name and state, and had a profile picture of a lady with two babies that looked like twins.  They looked like the mom and babies from the photos that Family B sent us.  Though the profile is private as I am not her friend, I was able to see that the music she likes matches what was put on her donor profile from NEDC.  I was able to tell with pretty high certainty that this is the donor mom.  From my conversation with Debbie, she told me that the donor mom grew up in the Asian country that was listed on FB her profile as her hometown and country.

So, I was able to find out her last name from FB.  I decided to google the donor dad by his first name, and her last name.  And up popped his name and profile on Linked.In, which also had a photo.  I could tell now that I found the right person based on his photo and his occupation.

So now, I know even more about the donor family - first and last names, city they live in and even what donor dad does for a living.  I probably shouldn't have done this as I am trying not to get too attached to a family that we may or may not have a relationship with in the future, pending how the transfer goes.  I'm not even sure if I am supposed to know this stuff.

But curiosity got the better of me!


  1. So are you thinking you'll switch up the choice 1?

  2. Love this! At least you then didn't use their full names and city/county of residence to search local tax records for their home address then use Google earth to see aerial views of their home. :)

    Seriously, though, I think it's only normal to be curious and to crave as much information about your babies as possible. And they put themselves out there on the web publicly.

    Praying that September gets here soon!

  3. Good for you!!! Thats all I have to say. Who wouldn't do this? Even if someone says they wouldn't I would have to bet that many people in your situation would do the same thing you did. So I say its totally ok.

  4. Don't feel bad I think curiosity gets the best of both of us.. I occasionally peak on our BM Facebook page to see what is going on in her life. we have a semi open adoption. It's hard not to. :)