Today we celebrated DH's grandma's 90th birthday as a family. We went to a Chinese buffet restaurant and surprised Grandma for lunch. She thought she was only having lunch with my BIL and his family. After lunch we had cake at my MIL's house. By what chaos! There were 10 nieces and nephews ages 2 months to 8 years. There were lots of running, yelling, crying, stomping, whining, fighting, etc.
DH is a kid magnet. He is all the nieces and nephews favorite uncle. DH is really great with the kids, especially the older ones who like to wrestle and be more physical. I prefer to play with the younger ones, especially the 2-year olds. The girls like the play dress up and are more affectionate. The best part of today was holding my 2-month old niece. I realize some of us dealing with IF have a hard time with newborns or babies, but I LOVE holding babies. They are so cuddly, warm and smell wonderful! That newborn smell, there's just something about it. And the feel of the soft fuzzy head just melts my heart! I've also read somewhere that holding babies are supposed to be good for those TTC. Well I have held LOTS of babies but still nothing to show for it. Still I don't mind too much. It is a temporary therapy while I wait for my dream child(ren).
My BIL D.D. never stops with the "When are you guys going to have one of these?" or "Aren't you glad you don't have kids?" (when kids are yelling or screaming), and "When are you going to join the club?". It annoys the heck out of me, but I have not had too many good comebacks yet. I think one time I said "When is A. [my 8-year old niece, his daughter] going to be old enough to babysit?". Another time I said something like "You'll know when it happens", or " Why are you so anxious?". I don't think I've ever come up with a real good response. Drives me crazy!
I once told DH that one of these days I'm gonna snap and yell "I can't have kids, OK? I'm infertile!! You happy now!!?" Then I'll probably breakdown and cry. AWKWARD! But that probably won't help because then he'll have something else to say like the the classic just relax, have you tried X,Y, or Z, just adopt, enjoy yourselves while you can, want mine, etc. He's one of those guys that never stops talking (seriously, he loves to talk!), and thinks he is the smartest person around. He always has a comeback remark. Anyway, I just hope it will never get to that point! I don't mind him as a person, but I wish he would just shut the heck up already about this!
Today, as I was holding my 2-month old niece sleeping peacefully on my chest, DH's aunt J. asks me casually "Are you guys planning on having babies?". My response was "If it happens, it happens". I don't mind so much her asking because I know she really meant well. I am sure she has been wondering this for a long time and she knows we love the nieces and nephews. I just appreciate that she was asking sincerely. I also suspect it is a question that Grandma really wants to know too, but has been nice enough not to ask, unlike my "wonderful" BIL.
So anyone have any good comebacks to the ultimate and non-stop question of "When are you guys having kids?".