Insensitive

Lately, every time I get on Faceb.ook, I see this event invitation staring back at me, mocking me even.  I received this invitation a couple months ago.

It's for a baby shower.

Not only is it for a baby shower, it's for a baby shower for a lady that knows that Babe and I are dealing with infertility.  

She is the same lady that knew that our IVF did not work.  

She is the same Gal #2 that in April, told me I should "just adopt", and how she knows people that have adopted and got pregnant after.  I told her off and set her straight about how wrong she was then.  You can read about it here.

Oh and did I mention that this will be her 3rd baby?  Yes THIRD!!  Number 3!!

Wait a minute, I thought people only had baby showers for their first baby.  Am I wrong?  Do people have baby showers after the first one?

I'm sorry if I'm being critical, but is she doing this just for gifts?  I know that times are tough, and she may not be doing well financially, but still.

I understand that she is happy to be pregnant again and want to share her joy with her friends, but I think that it is just inconsiderate and insensitive.  Maybe she wants to make sure that I don't feel left out if I found out she is having a baby shower and I am not invited.  

But I think she could have been more sensitive.  She could have told me in person about the shower and asked if I would like to attend, and then send me the invitation.  Instead, I get the invitation on Faceb.ook, along with 40 other people.

Am I just being too sensitive?

I don't plan on going anyway, but have not responded to the invite.  Not sure if I even want to get her a gift.  I'm not even that close to her.

The other thing is, we are both going to be in the same group in a program a church, so I will be seeing her every week for the next 10 weeks, until she has the baby.  I don't even remember when she said her baby is due.

I suppose I could just say no the the invitation, don't give an excuse, and just hope she doesn't ask why.  

She should know why, right?  Or am I just being presumptuous?

Am I the one being too sensitive?


** Update**
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Thanks to everyone that commented.  I have declined the invitation on Faceb.ook, and thankfully it no longer appears when I sign on.  I still have not decided if I will get her a gift.  Her shower is more than 3 weeks away, so I have time to decide.