Friday, May 31, 2013

Donor Profiles

First of all I need to clarify that we need to have at least 6 embryos for our transfer.  However, we are NOT going to transfer all six.  NEDC will usually transfer 2 or 3, but they want to make sure we have at least 6 embryos on hand.  In the unfortunate event that some embryos do not survive the thaw, we will have backups and not have to cancel the transfer.

We still have not selected our donor families.  I was very excited and was looking forward to going over the family profiles.  To me, this is the most exciting part of the process, selecting our future babies.  However, I didn't expect how difficult it would be.  There is no "perfect" match for us in the 8 profiles we have on hand.  Some are because of medical issues, others due to physical characteristics (height, color of eyes, ethnicity, etc.).  I have to keep in mind that even within our own families, we have medical issues as well, so I should be more open.  Also, most of the current donor families  only have between 3 and 5 embryos, which means we will have to select at least 2 different donor families.

There are 2 families that I am fairly comfortable with at this point.  However, I am not sharing this with Babe because I want him to make up his own mind.  I prefer if he tells me which families he likes first, then we can compare notes.  I've check with Angie the patient coordinator at NEDC and there are currently 12 anonymous donor families (i.e. closed adoption) that are either Asian-Causcasion or just Asian.  Babe wants to take a look at those families too, so I have requested the profiles from Angie.  The other thing to keep in mind is we can only select families that have agreed to open or closed adoption, and not a combination of both.  My preference is to have an open adoption, but we will see.

I've just started a new cycle.  Originally I was supposed to start BCP (birth control pills) right away when I start my new cycle.  But I asked the nurse that if I started my BCP right away, wouldn't I be on the it for 3 months straight?  She said I could start right away, or wait till July.  It didn't matter.  So I've decided to wait till July to start my BCP.  I won't be ordering my medication for the transfer until the beginning of August.  So for now, I will be medication free, at least for another month!


  1. So exciting! I remember choosing our embryo profiles in 2010. Such a sweet memory! :)

  2. Exciting! Within the closed, I recall one family with an attached letter stating that if the children someday wanted to contact them, they'd be open to it. So that may be more of the openness you're looking for. Take a look at the profiles and see what you end up with :)

    Godspeed! :)

  3. So excited for you both! God has the perfect donors for you already in mind! Can't wait to see who you guys choose : )

  4. We haven't gotten to the selecting donors stage yet but I've been browsing some profiles online and finding a perfect match seems pretty unlikely. I hope whether you go for the open couples or the closed you are able to make peace with the decision and know that they are the right choices for you.

    I think I would have held off on the BCP another cycle too if given the chance.

  5. So exciting! Which ever embryos you choose, and no matter what the profiles look like on paper, once you see that baby (babies?), none of it will matter. You'll be madly in love! Good luck with the decision!

  6. My heart is full for you. I don't read blogs like I used to, but know that I continue to pray for you and your husband. I firmly believe you will select the perfect profile(s). My dear friend has a beautiful son through embryo adoption....what a miracle he is! Xo. Prayers always.