Thursday, March 22, 2012

"What God Meant", A Poem.

I found this poem when I came across this blog about embryo adoption.  We often wonder "why me, God?".  Why do we have to go through this painful journey of infertility?  We may never know the answer to the why, but this poem may be what God meant for us.  I think you will enjoy this.

What God Meant
Author Unknown

What do I think God meant when He gave me infertility?

I think He meant for my husband and I to grow closer, become stronger, love deeper. 

I think God meant for us to find the fortitude within ourselves to get up every time infertility knocks us down.

I think God meant for our medical community to discover medicines, invent medical equipment, create procedures and protocols.

I think God meant for us to find a cure for fertility. 

No, God never meant for me to not have children.

That's not my destiny; that's just a fork in the road I'm on.

I've been placed on the road less traveled, and like it or not, I'm a better person for it.

Clearly, God meant for me to develop more compassion, deeper courage, and greater inner strength on this journey to resolution, and I haven't let Him down.

Frankly, if the truth be known, I think God singled me out for special treatment. 

I think God meant for me to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.

While I would never have chosen infertility, I cannot deny that a fertile woman could ever experience the joy that I know awaits me.

Yes, one way or another, I will have a baby of my own.

And the next time someone wants to offer me unsolicited advice, I'll say, "Don't tell me what God meant when He handed me infertility. I already know.


  1. What a beautiful poem. My favorite part is:

    "I think God meant for me to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known."

    When you get to hold YOUR baby, you will experience a love that is undescribable. I have experienced it first hand. And I will continue to pray for you to have that experience too!

    Thanks for sharing!

  2. Hello. Stopping by from ICLW. I love the poem, and often rely on my faith to help me deal with the "Why Me" kinds of questions in infertility. I will be back to read more of your journey... My husband and I may be looking into the adoption route ourselves soon... Also related to poor egg supply/quality. It's hard to believe i may end up on the other side of the adoption triad this time around. But if that is what God meant for me to do in order to become a mother, then so be it! I wish you all the best on your adoption journey, wherever it may take you!
    Thanks for sharing this!

  3. Hi from ICLW. This is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing. Hubby and I are also looking into embryo adoption, and are starting on our second "traditional" infant adoption. Being a mother to my daughter is definitely "the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known." Life has not turned out the way I wanted it, but that only means it has been better than I could have imagined. Adoption is a beautiful and rare gift and I just wanted to encourage you to stay strong and hold out for your dreams. One website I have found very encouraging and just started getting their inspirational daily emails from is Blessings on your journey.

  4. ICLW greetings! My faith also kept me going with my battle with IF and loss. Thanks for sharing this beautiful poem with us and hope your adoption gets finalized :) Blessings!

  5. Here form ICLW. This is so true. I hate when people say "perhaps God's plan is..." (I even wrote a whole post about it). That is the hardest thing to hear, but I like how your poem put it "special treatment".

  6. Wow. That poem is so beautiful. I may have to share on Facebook. Great blog and I look forward to following your journey!

    ICLW #14

  7. This is beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.

    ICLW #4

  8. I love it. Way to make me cry! :) So beautiful.

    ICLW #43

  9. I love this so much, seriously I want to tattoo it on my body.
    thank you so much for sharing :)

    ICLW #118

  10. I love this! Visiting from ICLW. I look forward to following your journey!

  11. This is great. Why me is such a huge part of most Oxford IF journeys.

    Best wishes!

  12. WOW is about all I can say. I love this. It brings tears to my eyes.

  13. You have no idea how encouraging this post is. Thank you for sharing this.